Body confidence…how to accept who we really are.

Hello everyone,

Hope you are all doing well and had a lovely weekend.
Hope you all got a chance to watch the royal wedding it was so beautiful, I enjoyed every bit of it.

This week I am talking about body confidence because I feel like we put so much pressure on ourselves to look a certain way.
Deprecating ourselves and finding everything under the sun to criticise what we don’t like about our bodies.


summer look, what we wore

summer look, what we wore

Earlier this week I experienced something, at first I thought nothing of it until I got the chance to do a recap of what actually happened and it shook me up a bit.
Cadrian my ten years old had a party at her school celebrating the royal wedding, in which they had to dress up.
She picked two dresses leading up to the day to wear, one of which was a little bit inappropriate to me for her to wear,
it was a bit too skimpy and see-through, but in her eyes, she couldn’t see what I was talking about, because to her it’s perfect, so I opted for the other one.

The day arrived, doing our usual morning routine, she got dressed came in my room in the dress I told her not to wear, I immediately told her ” to take it off and wear the other one”, with no extra time to waste in my busy morning schedule I was fuming.
Went and checked to see how she was getting on and found the little girl in tears, saying she doesn’t like the dress because she doesn’t like the way her arms looked in the dress.

summer look, what we wore

Tell me now; she is only TEN!……, I would love to have her perfect little arms, this shows us how early we start nitpicking on our body parts. Long story short, I insisted she wears the dress, all because of her reason not to, she wore the dress with a cardigan, when I picked her from school it was tied around her waist mmmm.

I am not overly confident with my body, but I am learning to accept and appreciate what I cannot change, sometimes the things we picked on only our eyes can see because it’s not that serious.

Let us love ourselves along with our flaws because that is what makes us unique and special; educate our children to love themselves and accept who they are, and not let society negativity brainwashed their little minds, persuading them that they have to look a certain way to be accepted.

mom of two, what we wore

summer look, what we wore

Taking these pictures was a task, Caydreen just wouldn’t cooperate lol, she was just doing what she feels like, these are few from a thousand.

This week quote

Self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings.



  1. Stacy
    May 22, 2018 / 2:27 am

    It is funny you would discuss this topic because I recently had this discussion with Ky as well. Hers was on the topic of hair as most her friends are of mixed race with long hair. I had her list all her attributes that made her unique such as being gifted, an excellent writer, her ability to sing, the fact that she is so loving and generous etc. It is really sad because our girls are really beautiful but are being marginalized because they are so aware of society’s definition of beauty. Not on my watch. I shall remind her everyday of how beautiful she is and the fact that she is a gift… a beautiful gift ❤️

    • kaydeon cargill
      May 23, 2018 / 8:20 pm

      Awwww I know Ace, we just need to keep on reminding them how special and beautiful they are, we are blessed with beautiful girls just need to keep on directing them in the right path.

  2. Bee
    June 29, 2018 / 7:28 am

    Why am I just seeing this? Awesome piece and you girls looks great ?

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